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I want to be a Man…

01 Nov 2012 Author fragileheart

My wildest fantasy is to be born as a man. Then I would not have to be answerable for everything. I can do anything as I like. I can go anywhere I like. There would be no restriction to go anywhere at anytime. I can have as many girlfriends I want and nobody would even raise an eyebrow. I don’t have to cry for every little thing since it is not a manly thing to cry over petty things. I can play all the time even after marriage. I can behave as I want anywhere. My friends would be more important than my wife and children. I would drink till I can take no more. I would stay out till morning almost every day. i would not have to do any work at home. I can just order everything and if it is not to my liking then I can always scold them. I can sleep as much as I want and get up late every morning. I just want to be in their shoe and feel how they feel.

Bigg Boss

01 Nov 2012 Author fragileheart

These days I am busy watching Bigg Boss on Colors. It comes everyday at 9.30 pm for one hour. It is a real live show and is quite interesting. A group of celebrities of mixed field are put together in a house for some months. In the house they have to follow certain rules and do tasks as required by the Big Boss. There is no TV, music system, mobiles, computer etc in the house. They are totally isolated from the outside world except on fridays when they talk to Salman Khan who is the host of the show. In order to get luxury items they have to successfully complete the given task every week. Every week a new captain is nominated who has got some privileges over others. Also every week each contestant has to nominate two people from the house. There is voting system for the same and the result is given every friday.

The reason why I like this show is that it shows your true personality, the way you deal with people, the way you handle the tasks etc.  It shows that no matter what background you come from, how rich you are, how famous you are, basically we are human beings first. Though it is a game and everyone wants to win it but still you cannot pretend not to be yourself for so long. It is good to see even the guys backbiting about other people like the girls. Among them they make their own groups and sometimes argue over small things like coffee or water. The fun is doing everything yourself since there is no maid in the house and they have to do all the cleaning and cooking by themselves. It shows how good you are at coordinating things and divinding the work amongst themselves. Some know each other from before and some are total stranger. Sometimes they say things which are misunderstood by others and then starts another heated argument. Most of the ladies in the house have already cried rivers and once even one guy cried for no reason in particular. It shows how considerate you are of others feelings, how much you can take it. Its all about human psychology and human behaviour.

What is LOVE?

01 Nov 2012 Author fragileheart


The very thought makes you feel blissful and on seventh heaven. It means different to different people. There are different kinds of love – husband wife love, lovers love, mothers love, fathers love, childrens love, brothers love, sisters love, friends love etc etc. But overall it all means the same which is caring and loving someone very much sometimes more than yourself. Some love is selfish wherein you look for your own benefits rather than the person you love. Love does not mean forcing someone to love you in return. Love means being happy for the person you love no matter what. The love which is unconditional is the best of all since you do not expect anything in return but still keep in giving unselfishly to that person.

Love does not mean loving the physical features of a person but the inner beauty which is there to stay forever. It means accepting that person as they are with their shortcomings. Love means trust and understanding each other along with respect. Love means being there for someone when the whole world is against them. Love means the comfort level which you share where you don’t have to use words to express your feelings. Just one look or one touch is enough to put the message across. Love means doing something for your loved ones. Love means spending time with them and sharing your feelings. It is just a small four letter word but it means everything. It is easy to say but very difficult to actually mean it from the heart.

Nowadays you say I LOVE YOU to so many people that you lose count of them. True love is hard to find. For men love means attraction basically. When they are pursuing the one they love, then they are ready to do everything for them. They are so caring, do little things to keep thier girl happy, call them number of times in a day just to hear her voice. Some shower thier girls with gifts and flowers and surprises which are the key  ingredients which any girl would fall for. But once they get married then it turns to another kind of love. They stop all the things they did while courting.

Some men don’t love anyone but has plenty of girlfriends or wife. Some marriages are without love. It is one of compromise or for the sake of the children. They both do their own thing and carry on as if nothing has happened. They are just two people sharing a house and maybe couple of kids. I like the kind of love which keeps on growing rather than diminishing which goes on till the end of your life.

There are people who even sacrifice their lives for the one they love. There are others who are too possessive about the one they love to the extent that they can kill someone also. This kind of love is dangerous. There is silent kind of love where they never express their love to the one they love. There are people who take their own life when they don’t get the love of their life. There are others who claim they love more than two persons. There are some who love their own kind and though it is not common but slowly getting recognized in some countries. There are many guys who were bad but mended their ways once they fell in love.

Love has the strength to melt even the hardest of all hearts. Some go mad if they don’t get the one they love. Love is one thing which knows no barrier, no religion, no caste, no color. It is the only language known all over the world. Love can make the impossible seem possible. Love can change you into a better person.

In the end Love wins all.

Has it really come to this?

01 Nov 2012 Author fragileheart

Is it really a matter of convenience now? It is not that it was not there before but the cases like these are in the rising and it is disheartening to know that such things happen nowadays. Every now and then we get to hear things like these happening with someone. Whom should we blame? the individuals, the society, the economy or who else is to be blamed. Decades before it used to happen randomly and that too people who used to take advantage of innocent girls, proclaim false love and marriage and then leave them as if you don’t even know them. People in the higher ranks used to visit villages and then deflower young and innocent girls and then leave them on their own when they left that place. And there are many cases where the girls have become pregnant and given birth to children with no father. There was nothing or noone to save them and give them justice.

Because of the rising number of unemployent, girls are forced to take up any available job they can get in order to sustain themselves. Many of them end up working in Drayangs and hotels where they are not treated well. Most of them are lured by men by giving false hopes of job, love and marriage. And in worst cases many end up selling their bodies for few ngultrums. Mostly they are the ones who have been cheated and used. But nowadays even the girls are not far behind. Some of them have accepted it as their fate and use their charm to get things done. They make boyfriends for benefits and use it to study further or sustain themselves. It doesnot matter how old is their boyfriend but how much he can spend on them. The lifestyle they lead requires money to buy clothes, luxury items, travel, food and party which they cannot afford on their own. And the rich old men just wants to flaunt their girlfriends who are old enough to be their daughters.

Nowadays there is a trend of people going for further studies and most of the time either the husband or the wife gets it if both are working. It is very rare where the wife or the husband goes along with their spouse. Otherwise one of them goes. This is also one of the reasons of rising number of affairs. The ones who are left behind then cheat on their spouses and in many cases gets married to someone else by the time their spouse returns back home. In many cases it is a matter of convenience wherein they just have an affair but with no strings attached and commitments.

These kind of people who use other people as a matter of convenience for their own needs are dangerous. They are the ones who are breaking marriages and relationships and also the life of the children involved in either cases. There are no values or principles about marriages and relationships nowadays and nobody takes it seriously. Everyone is so casual about it. Having more than one wife or husband and having affair seems like a normal thing nowadays. Integrity and trust is nowhere to be seen except in dictionaries. People have become too materialistic and practical. As long as their own means are fulfilled they do anything to get it. We don’t get to see pure love and good values. People change wives and husbands just like they are changing clothes. In some cases the children are confused as to who is their real father or mother.

When I ponder over this things, I feel that it needs a revolution to change whatever is happening around us. It is very easy to blame but difficult to correct it. The economy, the society, individuals, everyone is the culprit. Unless we change our way of thinking and way of living, nothing is going to change and chances are it might get worse than this.

Why do good girls gets bad guys?

01 Nov 2012 Author fragileheart

Why do good girls gets bad guys and vice versa? This is one question which keeps popping up in my mind at times. Statistics also confirm that it is true since there is hardly many couples who are both good or both bad. Is it because opposites attract? When I look around I always see that the good girls always end up marrying bad guys and good guys end up marrying bad girls. By good I mean a girl who is the take home kind of person one who is homely, decent, does all the household chores, a good wife, mother, friend etc. She takes care of you and your likes and dislikes. She is the one who manages the house and outside very well. But her husband is a guy who has all the bad habits, stays out most of the time, does not do anything to help at home, ill treats his wife beats her even, has affairs with many but expects his wife to be good. By bad girl I mean one who parties all night, drinks and smokes, always out of the house, hardly manages the house, spends all the money for herself, who doesnot cook at all nor takes care of husband and kids. But her husband is a guy who stays at home, cooks and manages the house, takes care of the kids, does all the work himself, doesnot drink or smoke, treats her nicely.

So my question is – is it fair like that? Don’t the good girls deserve a good guy? and good guys a good girl? or is it all about balancing the eco system? These days I hardly see any couple who are perfect in every sense. They deserve each other and compliment each other well. They share the work between them and do everything together and also give each other space at times to do their own thing. And i think the relationship lasts longer that way. Compromise should not be done by one person but both person involved to make a relationship work. But weird is the law of attraction because of which opposites attract and as it is love is blind.

I Wish…

09 Oct 2012 Author fragileheart

I sometimes wish I could turn back the clock, revisit the points in my life where I should not have done what I did and erase the mistakes I made. I wish I should have studied harder and got distinction in my grades. I wish I should have participated more in sports and cultural activities in school and college and honed my talent in every sphere. I wish I should have taken up something more exciting as my career and not what I landed up with. I wish I was a good writer and have best sellers to my credit. I wish I had married well in time and had couple of daughters and sons whom I would dote upon. I wish I had settled in US or Australia earning dollars. I wish I was more beautiful to give models a run for their money. I wish I would have got to marry my prince charming. The list goes on and on.

My wishes are never ending BUT sometimes I wonder if all that would make any difference to me now. I know I don’t have everything in life. I have made wrong decisions in life. I might not be able to erase the mistakes I made but atleast I have corrected them and moved on. It has made me the person I am today. I have married late in life and have no kids to call my own. I don’t have the best job but atleast it is decent and keeps me moving. I am not talented but atleast I try to be a jack of all trades. I might not settled in US or Australia but atleast I am in my own country near my parents and friends. I did not meet my prince charming in the sense that he does not have all the qualities that I wanted in my husband but still I love him as he is.

Many of my friends are in good position and earning good salary and some are working abroad. Some of them are married and have kids and have their own home and other luxuries. Sometimes I envy them but more than that I feel proud of what they have achieved. I might not be satisfied with how my life turned out to be but atleast I am happy. When I look back, I am content that I have good memories of my childhood. My parents tried their best to give us the best they could. More than anything they have instilled in us the values in life and principles of life which I have intact till now. So when I think that even if my life was different than what it is now, it could have been worse and whether even if i had what all i wished for, the question remains would i be more happier than now?

My First Car…

09 Oct 2012 Author fragileheart

I don’t know exactly when the thought of buying a car came to my mind but it could be during one of the rides I took in my friend’s car. She had an old model toyota corona and we used to hang around together most of the time and go for long drives along with other friends. It was around that time that I always used to dream about all types of vehicles and in the dream I used to be always in a situation that I had to drive the car though I did not know how to drive one. Dreams were frequent and the only change was the scenario and the type of vehicle. Sometimes it used to be a Landcruiser, sometimes just a car, sometimes a Jeep etc etc. I even saw myself riding a bike and a scooter. The road used to be rough, sometimes uphill, sometimes downhill and sometimes plain. At times I used to be alone and sometimes with a friend or a family member.

This continued till the time I started learning how to drive. After that when the time came for me to buy a car, my dad did not allow me to buy a second hand. I had wanted to buy a second hand car of foreign model but he insisted that buying that would be wastage of money since maintenance would be high and spare parts would not be readily available in the market. He wanted me to buy Indian car of the latest model. So in the end, we ended up buying as per my dad’s wish. I had saved some money myself and my parents helped me with some and I bought the car with hard cash. It was like a dream come true for me and an achievement at such a young age. I have still not sold the car since I have got attached to it and will keep it as long as I can. It is still in good condition. And since then I have not dreamt of driving cars again!

Was it my Past Life?

06 Oct 2012 Author fragileheart

I found myself among the lush green valley with terraced rice fields. I was among a group of girls and boys who had come to visit the place. It looked like we were on a school tour. But when we came upon a ruined house, suddenly I had a feeling that I had been to that place before and everything seemed so familiar to me. I even knew how the house looked like when it had seen its better days. I even told my friends that I had been to this place before. Then everything went into a flashback for me like in the movies.

I was the one who stayed in that house which was now in ruins. I was a teenager and I was walking along a path and suddenly I felt somebody hold my hand. I could not see his face but I somehow knew that person and was happy to be with him. We walked together holding our hands for quite sometime. After sometime he was no more with me and I was walking alone. I was lost in his thoughts, happy to have met him and may be was returning home when suddenly a bus came from nowhere in front of me and ran over me. I had no time to escape since the road was too narrow and I was thrown off the road after hitting the bus. I screamed and I could feel piercing pain in my legs and could not move my legs.

It was at that moment that I woke up and found that I was still screaming. I had seen a dream but it was so real that I could remember every single detail clearly from the dream. I saw this dream when I was in school but I can still recollect it even today. I wondered then and I wonder now whether it had something to do with my past life. The interesting thing or the unbelievable thing is that when I got married years later and went to his village, the scenery was something similar to what I had seen in my dream. The whole experience was nostalgic to me.


The new method of teaching…

28 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

The method of teaching in earlier days and now are entirely different. In those days it was more like whatever teachers taught we used to learn that by heart and those who could not mug up used to have tough time remembering answers word by word. For me it was always that I had to understand the topic and then only I could write the answer and that too in my own words. But not many teachers used to appreciate this and used to give less marks even though answers were correct. During my school days I always used to feel that how good it would be if the teachers let us write what we have understood rather than what was in the book or what the way the teacher taught us. Writing this here does not mean that I have any hard feelings towards any of my teachers, I am just comparing the methods of teaching then and now. Though I have not been a very bright student but I have been a very hardworking student till my masters.

Now the method of teaching has changed and I must say I am quite impressed. The lessons now make you think and is given with lots of examples around you, be it in science, social studies, maths etc. I think children now should be happy and proud that they are learning in an interactive manner. Before they answer a question, they have to understand it and think about it and then answer it. I think the books now or the lessons taught now are more closer to what we do in reality in every sphere. It makes you aware of what is happening around you and what are the significance of each topic in our everyday lives. And all these would make a solid foundation in our lives. What I could see lacking in our times is that though people get degrees and holding a job but they were not knowing the fundamental basics well. I mean to say that though someone might have been able to give a definition of a particular word or topic, they would not be in the position to answer if you really ask them what it meant. They would be just telling what was in the book without actually understanding it.

Sometimes I just wish that I could go back to school and study once more with the modern methods and utilize my brain to its full capacity. I am neither a teacher nor a student but this was something I just wanted to share through my perspective. Some of the teachers made me the person who I am today and I am forever grateful for that, especially my English teacher because of whom I love English and it has been my favourite subject and my maths teacher in school because of whom I started loving the subject and scoring good marks in it.

Language isn’t a problem anymore

27 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

Though priviledged to be born in the beautiful valley of our capital city, I have spent most of my life in the southern belt. My parents were working in the Government and had done their schooling from India. They were well conversant in Lhotsamkha and hindi. Since they were working, they used to be transferred after certain period but luckily or unluckily it was always in the southern region and that too always near the border. Maybe because of all these factors and the fact that we used to converse in lhotsamkha at home, we children also used to talk in that language only. Another reason was at that time speaking Dzongkha was not that compulsory. Now after growing up, we sometimes like to blame it on our parents and we even questioned them as to why we did not speak Dzongkha at home like others. But maturity says that it is easier to put the blame on others but fault was ours also in some way.

In school it was no better since we used to speak lhotsamkha and sometimes english but dzongkha was rare. Even the dzongkha lopen used to explain it to us in nepali. I used to score good in other subjects but because of less marks in dzongkha, my percentage would come down drastically. I could never rote or mug up so I could not perform that well in dzongkha. So in totality, my dzongkha was very poor both spoken and written. Somehow I managed to get through class ten and as I wanted to pursue in science I got my admission in India. After that I completed my graduation and masters from India only. But while I was there, I used to speak dzongkha with some bhutanese friends since it was matter of prestige too. Otherwise, I used to speak in dzongkha only when spoken to or when I used to visit my native village where they can’t understand or speak anything other than dzongkha.

Even when I started working, I did not face any problem since people speak english and lhotsamkha along with dzongkha. The thing was even the job I landed up with was in the southern border town only. It was only after I met my better half and got married, that I started speaking dzongkha at home and also in office. I must say that I have improved my vocabulary and I must thank my better half for that. It was only after marriage that I got interested to watch dzongkha programs, movies and listening to dzongkha songs. Now I even think in dzongkha sometimes.

So now I can proudly say that language is not a problem anymore – at least spoken.

Depression… the latest disease

27 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

Nowadays more than the physical kind of diseases, the one which is becoming more popular is the mental one. By mental I don’t mean mentally impaired or mad. I mean to say mental depression or stress. It is on the rising though many do not seek medical help and sometimes becomes too late to cure. People are still not comfortable telling their problems out in the open. But this kind of disease is also very harmful if not taken care of in time.

It could be mainly due to living style. Jobs are getting competitive in the market and also getting stressful at work. Due to technology more and more affairs are happening – through mobile or online chats or facebook. People are spending more time outside then at home and affairs in offices are common. Because of all these, people are becoming depressed especially those who are the victims. Handling both office stress and personal stress takes a toll on anyone. Initially some don’t even realize they are into depression.

I have seen few cases where people had this problem and one or two even died due to this illness. People who take their own lives are also victims of this disease. It is only when one is mentally disturbed and depressed that one can have the courage to take one’s own life. It is also happening in children since it has become so competitive that both parents and teachers are putting pressure to perform well. Some even go into drugs because of this reason.

It is better to talk it out in open either with your close relatives, friends or go to a doctor and get help in time. The moment you see some symptoms of depression you should take help immediately. It has become a growing concern in Bhutan and we should make people aware of this disease and take precautions and medications in time. We should encourage people to come out in the open and see the doctor.

The value of Money…

25 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

Nowadays everything revolves around money and it has almost become like a god. Without it we are nowhere and nobody would even give you a second glance. I am not trying to say money is not needed but there is a big difference between need and want. Our wants are many and for that we need more money. If we use it for our basic necessities then we don’t need lot of money.

We have lost the value of money nowadays. When we were kids what we used to get with ten ngultrums, now we hardly get anything for the same. If we go for shopping with 500 ngultrums, we can hardly get anything but with the same we used to be able to buy a lot and even save some. Everything has become costlier nowadays. We don’t value money for what it is worth. We spend more than we earn. We buy things unnecessarily just to maintain some status. We don’t try to live within our means. And that’s the reason why we are not happy and satisfied.

I learnt to value money from my early days since my parents never over indulged us by giving us the best they could and I am forever grateful for that. My dad’s principle is to live within one’s means and never to borrow money from others especially friends since that is the root cause of many clashes and enmity. He is even against taking loans from the banks. He did not wanted his children to repay the debt and interest.

I graduated from India and later on did my masters too from India and my stay over there taught me a lot about life. I could see the difference in the way of living between us and them. Where they believe in saving, we believe in spending. Where they save for tomorrow, we live for today. There every single rupee counts and makes a difference and here we think of bigger numbers only. There knowing the value of money does not mean being stingy but here we think that if you value money then it is being stingy. Here we don’t even mind paying more for what that thing actually costs. But I feel that paying more than what it is worth is unnecessary wastage of money and we are not multimillionaire that we can spend money just like water.

It is our responsibility that we teach our younger generation right from the beginning the value of money among other things. Nowadays parents have become busy in their own lives and don’t spend as much time with their children and in order to compensate that they provide their kids with everything and even give them huge pocket money. The result of which we can see that more youngsters are into drugs, gangs etc.

We should use money but not let it rule us.

Two faces…

25 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

It is truly said that human beings have two faces, the one they show it to the world and the other which is their real self. Usually when people are out in the crowd, they behave gently, politely, in their best behaviour while interacting with others but in real they might not be so. I am saying this because sometimes when triggered by negative factors like anger, verbal abuse, mood etc, they show their real self.

I have seen many people who are totally different when with others and in reality they are something different. Many of them I know personally since its when you know a person closely only then you know the true character/nature of that person. Outside they are reserved, friendly, gentle etc but in reality they are violent when angry, moody and very difficuly to adjust with. They are selfish and think only they are right and look down upon others. They take things/people for granted and want everything to be done as per their wish. I wonder sometimes what would other people think if they come to know those people who are different when in real. They would have a hard time to believe that it is the same person.

Personally, I am what I am and don’t pretend to be what I am not. I am how they see me. We should be careful with that kind of person who are two faced.

Different colors of friends…

20 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

Anyone can be there for you in your good times but a real friend will be there for you in your bad times. A true friend is the one who will stand by you even if the whole world is against you without any need of explanation. True friendship is hard to find these days. People have become selfish in choosing their friends nowadays. They want to be around people who can boost their career or business or who are influential. It is truely said that we know who our friends are in times of adversity since it is the time people run away from you or make you stand alone to face the world.

There are two kinds of friends – real and fake. The real one talks good about you behind your back and stands by you against all odds. The fake one talks good only infront of you but talks badly about you behind your back and is the first one to run away from you the moment you are in some trouble or going through some rough phase.

I have many friends and I must say I had the opportunity of having both real and fake friends. I knew my fake friends in my bad times when I really needed a friend. One of them tried to ruin my career and my character by spreading false rumours just because that person was jealous of me and I had no idea that there was so much hatred for me. My life was hell at that time but thanks to my family who stood by me through all those times and I could bounce back to life after sometime.

In another case I was going through a difficult phase in my life when I had no one to share my problems. I really needed a friend that time who would stand by me and give me moral support but the friends whom I counted as my best friends were the ones who talked badly behind my back and were not there when I needed them. But after everything was over, they came back to me as if nothing happened. It is hurting to know that your friends change colors within no time. I am happy that at least my bad times showed me who my true friends are and whom to trust henceforth.

Now you must be thinking whether I stand by my friends when they are in need. Then I must say that I have always stood by them no matter what and I have never talked bad about them behind their back. For me friendship means for ever. You know what hurts more? The truth what your friend did behind your back to you since you did not expect that then what your enemy does to you in front of you? That’s why there’s a saying that it is better to have a known enemy than an unknown friend.

Greed… a necessary evil?

20 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

We human beings are greedy by nature. The degree of greediness varies from person to person. Greediness could be for anything from money, fame, status, material things etc depending on individuals. We just can’t get enough of what we have or get – we want more and more. To a moderation, it is good to be greedy since it makes you do something to achieve that. But if you are too greedy then you just look at the end and not the means to get that. I mean you would go to any lengths to achieve what you want.

If we are satisfied with what we have then we don’t need to get things by unfair means. But we want money, more of it in the fastest way possible. It is because of our greed only otherwise we can earn enough for just basic food, shelter and clothing. Every day we get to hear someone robbing, theft cases, siphoning money, taking bribes directly or indirectly, cheating etc and the list is endless. What makes people do these? It is greed only which makes them do these things even knowing the risk involved in it and getting caught in the act. On top of that losing their good name which will never come back once they lose it. Some even go to the extent of taking someone else’s life and end up behind the bars for many years. Even if you achieve a high status by unfair means, you will not be respected by people and very soon you may not be holding that also. Some take money from people for getting their job done for which they are already getting their salary. Sometime they get in kind or take some favours from parties and then they are obliged to do something for them in return. This is the trend which is happening everywhere which is wrong but people are practising it.

The more you have the more you want and human wants can never be satisfied. We tend to spend more than we earn and that’s why we feel that we don’t have enough money. If we live beyond our means then obviously we will not be happy. If only we are happy with what we have and try to achieve what we want by good means, then this world would be a better place to live in. There would be no crimes, no war and everywhere there would be harmony.

Role of a wife…

20 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

From the time of evolution, it has always been women who look after the house, children, doing all the household chores and men providing food, shelter and now money. It had been divided that way since they were best at what they did and also it saved time. But now women not only look after the house but also work in almost every field same as men.  And they are good at them plus bring the added income to run the family.

But despite all that, it is sad to see that women are still treated as doormats in many cases though we like to say that in Bhutan women have equal stature in society. It is mostly because women do not come out in the open and expose about the way they are treated by their husbands at home. They still believe that it is something which should remain within the walls of their own house. But sadly because of this, they are taken advantage of and treated badly. It is seen that in most cases it is because of husbands drinking heavily and beating their wives for small or no reason. Just because women work outside, some husbands get jealous easily and treat their wives badly. The wives are expected to do everything at home even though they work equally in office and still husbands are not satisfied with it. It is very rare where husband helps in the household chores. Now since women are working, they are expected to do chores outside home also. Being the weaker sex, women take it silently. But now many NGOs like RENEW have come up which help the women who are ill treated. Still it is sad to know that even well educated men tend to do this with their wives, so what can be expected from the uneducated or the villagers. Many don’t approach for help for fear of what would happen to them and their children afterwards and the society doesn’t think good of women who are single or divorced. Why does society still look down on women?

Actually women nowadays do multitasking juggling both home and career efficiently and they need to be appreciated for the same. They need to be respected and not treated as slaves or someone inferior to men. There will be clashes, there will be arguments, there will be difference of opinions since individuals don’t think alike specially men and women but that does not mean the solution is to beat them, abuse them and bully them. Everything can be solved by talking it out openly and listening to each other. Just as they want women to understand them, women also want their husbands to understand them. By nature both men and women are different and because opposites attract they fell in love with each other in the first place.

Treat your wives as your equal, a life partner and give her the respect she deserves. She will be devoted to you for life happily.

Drinking… a killer in disguise

18 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

People say that they start drinking for a reason but I beg to differ here. I have my reasons to support that. They say that they started drinking because somebody ditched them and they drink to forget them. There are others who have been ditched but they have not taken to drinking to forget or overcome the feeling. Some say that they started drinking since they were facing a lot of tensions or personal problems.

But is drinking the solution to your problems? Will drinking make all your problems go away? I think its just an excuse to drink and nothing else. Once they are habituated they don’t even need any reason to drink.

In Bhutan drinking has become a habit and is increasing day by day. In the name of socialising, people start drinking and even women are not far behind. They look down on people who don’t drink labeling them as backward and conservative. In fact they should be respected since they are not under the control of alcohol. If it is a bottle of beer or two, a glass of wine or a peg or two of whisky occasionally then by all means it is within the limit. But some people don’t stop at that and drink till they are completely out and that too almost all days of the week, because of which there is an ever rising cases of divorce, affairs, fights, arguments, accidents etc nowadays. There is hardly any family time together since people prefer to be out of the house most of the time. People have become too selfish that they think only of themselves and their enjoyment and do not think of their wives, children, old parents at home who are dependent on them.

Drinking is also one of the main causes for liver cirrhosis and early death. When people are drunk they become violent and beat their wives and children mercilessly for no apparent reason. They spend most of their savings in drinking and thus become difficult to run the house. In spite of knowing the consequences, people still become addicted to it and continue doing so.

In Bhutan, in the name of tradition and culture, people tend to drink but I don’t think any religion or tradition in the world will teach you to drink till you are out of your senses or drink day in and day out. Everything done in moderation is good for health but people tend to forget that and drink as if there is no tomorrow.

I personally think that there would be more happiness everywhere if people would drink less and in moderation. Drinking is a slow poison and we don’t have any right to kill ourselves before our time comes.

Face to face with Death

18 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

One has to go through ups and downs in life and nobody can deny the fact. But mine has been more downs than ups.

I wanted to narrate my experience where I faced death from a very close distance. It was like any other day to start with but I started feeling some pain in my abdomen. Though it was painful, I went about my daily chores for sometime but it started getting unbearable and I took some pain killer hoping it would relieve the pain. I was all alone at home and thought that taking rest would help. But I had blacked out and that’s when I thought I needed help after I regained my consciousness. My pain was increasing terribly and no amount of injections were helping.

I was taken to the hospital and I had to undergo major operation immediately. It all happened so fast that I could not even digest the fact that I was so near to death and be prepared for that. I felt as if the person on the operation table was not me but someone else from a movie or a dream.

It was much later that the doctors told that if it was delayed any longer, I would not have survived. Even the thought brings shudder in my body. The next few months were gone trying to regain my health back to normal. You value life only once you have faced death from a very close distance. You should not take it for granted anymore. The truth of life is Death.

I lost my voice…

12 Sep 2012 Author fragileheart

These days I feel that I have lost my voice… not literally but I am not able to voice my feelings any more. I am not able to share my feelings with anyone. It’s not that I don’t have friends or close ones but they would not understand what I feel and also because I don’t want to burden them with my problems. I feel I am being bullied and misunderstood. Whatever I do, I am being criticised and finding faults in everything. Even though my intentions are good, but I am made to feel that I am not good enough. Sometimes, I don’t know where I have landed or how I ended up being treated like this.

Am I the only one who needs to compromise? Am I doing the right thing by taking things silently? Or will it lead to more troubles in future? Why am I being taken for granted? I didnot used to be like this but I feel so weak now. I want to end it now but again I have to think of so many people who are dependent on me and their happiness. For now, I will take it as long as I can bear it physically and mentally. I will keep a smile on my face for the sake of others and pretend to be dumb.

Liar Liar

29 Aug 2012 Author fragileheart

Oh! how i hate lies and people who lie. I am amazed at how they can lie with straight face and that too even after getting caught red handed. They have all the excuses in the world and they think that just because they are aggressive, others would believe the lie. But a lie will always be a lie and truth will always be a truth. So even if they can lie to the whole world, they cannot lie to themselves and to God. One day they will have to face the consequences of the same since I believe people have to pay for whatever bad they do. Its amazing to know how people can lie to someone they proclaim to love with such confidence. They are the ones who even give ultimatum as to break the relationship so that the other person is bound to think that it must not be true. After this there is no question of confronting next time since ultimatum has already been given. But liars would always continue doing they are good at. Hats off to them…