Love vs. Romance
Today I made up my mind to share what I have written long time ago. Sorry if it is not worth to post here.
Love vs. Romance. Know the difference before it's too late!
There IS a difference!
Romance – a manipulation technique designed to make someone open to Sex. The source of Romance is LUST.
Love – when someone's happiness means more than our own. The source of Love is CARING.
To many people, Romance means 'showing love'. That's not true. We show love by protecting the ones we care for with the intent to ensure their lasting happiness. That doesn't necessarily mean that we're nice to them.
Lust's motive is ORGASM.
Love's motive is CARING.
When we want to show how much we care, we stroke them, cuddle them, and play with them. We do all of these things to keep them happy and healthy. We do these things to keep them from suffering in any way.
We do the SAME THING with people we love whether they are our parents, our friends, or our children – we hug them, play with them, joke around with them, make sure they've eaten, make sure their colds are taken care of, we make sure they are not suffering in any way –- physically or emotionally. We also bitch them out when they've done something that could harm them or result in misery.
The difference between these people and a Lover is that when we are showing that we care for a lover, we use sex to bring them the greatest physical pleasure we can.
LUST is a physical urge, like eating when we're hungry, seeking warmth in the cold, or needing to pee. It is an urge that seeks relief just like all our other physical urges.
Love doesn't use, it GIVES.
Love gives affection to make the one loved happy.
Lust takes affection to make them happy.
Lust Takes pleasure.
Love Gives it.
Jealousy is NOT a sign of LOVE.
Jealousy a sign of possession, of ownership; of FEAR that their object will be taken from them and no longer be theirs to USE.
When one is in love and their lover sleeps with someone else, that one does not feel jealousy they feel FAILURE.